If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, borderline, psychopath or histrionic, you probably understand why these personalities are also referred to as high-conflict people. It’s because they chronically manufacture an overwhelming amount of conflict, chaos and drama. Just when you catch your breath, they’re back at it. Provoking, projecting, gaslighting, tantrum-ing, exaggerating, pouting, […]
Narcissist Fight Club Rule #5: Defending Yourself Makes You More Vulnerable
Arguing with narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths and other emotionally immature and unstable personalities is usually a pointless exercise for several reasons. First, narcissists aren’t interested in equitable solutions. They want to “win.” In my experience, they’re the most determined to win (i.e., punish you), when they’re objectively wrong. They take perverse pleasure in getting others to […]
Why No Contact is So Hard After an Abusive Relationship with a Narcissist, Borderline or Psychopath
If you still believe you love your narcissistic, borderline or psychopathic ex, practicing and maintaining No Contact can be very difficult initially. Excruciatingly, painfully difficult. Many of my clients compare it to withdrawing from a drug. Neuro-chemically speaking, there are similarities. You’re hurting, and you want the pain to stop. To ease the pain you […]