In part one of this series, I explain why co-parenting with a narcissist means being “the asshole.” To clarify, being the asshole doesn’t mean being an arrogant, controlling, unreasonable jerk. Rather, it means being indifferent to the narcissist’s opinions and feelings about you. It means practicing accountability and becoming immune to the borderline’s continued attempts […]
Sex with Borderlines: Confusing Intensity for Intimacy, Part 2
Myths about amazing sex with borderlines and narcissists proliferate the Internet. Sex with borderlines isn’t amazing (contrary to urban legend). Same goes for sex with narcissists. To be clear, we’re talking about individuals who, emotionally- and psychologically-speaking, haven’t developed beyond childhood or adolescence, okay? As discussed in Part One, many codependent clients confuse love bombing […]
That’s Not Normal: No Win Situations
No winning! The narcissist or borderline always wins because they control the rules in their relationships. And the rules are one-sided and self-serving. You will always lose if you play by their rules. So what can you do? Insist on being treated with the same respect they demand and create and enforce your boundaries. You […]
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