Confusing the emotional intensity of love bombing for emotional intimacy is a mistake many of my clients make. They confuse the instantaneous, over-the-top flattery, attention, physical affection and/or sex for genuine emotion and intimacy. In reality, it’s a seduction trap. The most vulnerable are usually codependent adults who felt unloved, unwanted, less than or worthless […]
That’s Not Normal: Denying Reality Makes You a Perfect Target
You can avoid reality, but you cannot avoid the consequences of avoiding reality (attributed to Ayn Rand). Staying in an unhealthy, dysfunctional, unsatisfying relationship usually means having to deny the reality of the situation. Denying the reality of a partner’s personality and the unlikelihood that it will change. Denying how bad things actually are. Denying […]
Trauma Bond vs. Healthy Bond: Emotional Intensity vs. Emotional Intimacy [Meme]
When looking for potential love relationships, many of my codependent and trauma bond-prone clients confuse emotional intensity and emotional intimacy. There’s a big difference. Emotional intensity is like a wildfire and emotional intimacy is like a hearth fire. One destroys lives; the other can warm your soul. Oftentimes, dysfunctional, toxic and/or personality disordered individuals are highly […]
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