What does “honoring my feelings” mean to a narcissist or borderline? Short answer: Run for cover! Incoming one-sided, self-serving, emotional bullshit! “I’m just speaking My Truth!” is a variation of “honoring my feelings,” with which you may also be familiar. When a narcissist or borderline declares either, break out the rubber boots and pooper scooper. […]
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Being “the Asshole,” Part 2
In part one of this series, I explain why co-parenting with a narcissist means being “the asshole.” To clarify, being the asshole doesn’t mean being an arrogant, controlling, unreasonable jerk. Rather, it means being indifferent to the narcissist’s opinions and feelings about you. It means practicing accountability and becoming immune to the borderline’s continued attempts […]
Boundaries Protect You from Narcissists and Borderlines, Part 3: The Very Basics
In Part 1 of this series, I discuss the importance of the law of reciprocity. If a relationship isn’t reciprocal, it will eventually become a source of anger and resentment. Healthy relationships can’t exist on a one-way street paved with double standards. Part 2 explains the joy of saying no. I discuss secondary gains and […]
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