In part one of this series, I explain why co-parenting with a narcissist means being “the asshole.” To clarify, being the asshole doesn’t mean being an arrogant, controlling, unreasonable jerk. Rather, it means being indifferent to the narcissist’s opinions and feelings about you. It means practicing accountability and becoming immune to the borderline’s continued attempts […]
Sex with Borderlines: Confusing Intensity for Intimacy, Part 2
Myths about amazing sex with borderlines and narcissists proliferate the Internet. Sex with borderlines isn’t amazing (contrary to urban legend). Same goes for sex with narcissists. To be clear, we’re talking about individuals who, emotionally- and psychologically-speaking, haven’t developed beyond childhood or adolescence, okay? As discussed in Part One, many codependent clients confuse love bombing […]
That’s Not Normal: “You Need to Fight for Me!” [Meme]
Why isn’t this normal? How much time do you have? Healthy couples work together, not against each other. “You need to fight for me” usually means you’re fighting against their lifelong character pathology. So you fight them, and then get blamed for fighting with them. It doesn’t end until you step out of it and […]
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