Breaking Up with a Narcissistic Girlfriend is part two of a three part series. Part one is Breaking Up with a Borderline Girlfriend. Part three is Ending a Relationship with an Abusive Woman. Women and men engage in intimate partner violence at approximately equal rates. Abuse is not a gender issue. It is a gender […]
Co-Parenting with a Borderline: Being the Asshole, Part 3
Yes, I’m a Clinical Psychologist and, yes, I’m encouraging you to be “the asshole” when co-parenting with a borderline or narcissist ex. Shocking, right? Contrary to most other advice? That depends. I’m anti-enabling and anti-apologist when it comes to dealing with borderlines, narcissists and other high-conflict, characterologically disturbed personalities. Part one of this series examines […]
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Being “the Asshole,” Part 2
In part one of this series, I explain why co-parenting with a narcissist means being “the asshole.” To clarify, being the asshole doesn’t mean being an arrogant, controlling, unreasonable jerk. Rather, it means being indifferent to the narcissist’s opinions and feelings about you. It means practicing accountability and becoming immune to the borderline’s continued attempts […]