What does “honoring my feelings” mean to a narcissist or borderline? Short answer: Run for cover! Incoming one-sided, self-serving, emotional bullshit! “I’m just speaking My Truth!” is a variation of “honoring my feelings,” with which you may also be familiar. When a narcissist or borderline declares either, break out the rubber boots and pooper scooper. […]
Co-Parenting with a Borderline: Being the Asshole, Part 3
Yes, I’m a Clinical Psychologist and, yes, I’m encouraging you to be “the asshole” when co-parenting with a borderline or narcissist ex. Shocking, right? Contrary to most other advice? That depends. I’m anti-enabling and anti-apologist when it comes to dealing with borderlines, narcissists and other high-conflict, characterologically disturbed personalities. Part one of this series examines […]
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Being “the Asshole,” Part 2
In part one of this series, I explain why co-parenting with a narcissist means being “the asshole.” To clarify, being the asshole doesn’t mean being an arrogant, controlling, unreasonable jerk. Rather, it means being indifferent to the narcissist’s opinions and feelings about you. It means practicing accountability and becoming immune to the borderline’s continued attempts […]