In part one of this series, I explain why co-parenting with a narcissist means being “the asshole.” To clarify, being the asshole doesn’t mean being an arrogant, controlling, unreasonable jerk. Rather, it means being indifferent to the narcissist’s opinions and feelings about you. It means practicing accountability and becoming immune to the borderline’s continued attempts […]
Boundaries Protect You from Narcissists and Borderlines, Part 3: The Very Basics
In Part 1 of this series, I discuss the importance of the law of reciprocity. If a relationship isn’t reciprocal, it will eventually become a source of anger and resentment. Healthy relationships can’t exist on a one-way street paved with double standards. Part 2 explains the joy of saying no. I discuss secondary gains and […]
Just Say No: Every Time You Enforce a Boundary an Angel Gets Its Wings [Meme]
Help a pupper out! Have some boundaries. Say no to guilt trips and shaming. If you Haven’t done anything wrong, then there’s no reason to feel guilty or ashamed. Did you operate outside of your integrity? Okay, so own it and course correct. If you’re unsure or deep in the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt), ask […]