If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, borderline, psychopath or histrionic, you probably understand why these personalities are also referred to as high-conflict people. It’s because they chronically manufacture an overwhelming amount of conflict, chaos and drama. Just when you catch your breath, they’re back at it. Provoking, projecting, gaslighting, tantrum-ing, exaggerating, pouting, […]
Why No Contact is So Hard After an Abusive Relationship with a Narcissist, Borderline or Psychopath
If you still believe you love your narcissistic, borderline or psychopathic ex, practicing and maintaining No Contact can be very difficult initially. Excruciatingly, painfully difficult. Many of my clients compare it to withdrawing from a drug. Neuro-chemically speaking, there are similarities. You’re hurting, and you want the pain to stop. To ease the pain you […]
Going Mental: How Do You Know When a Sociopath, Narcissist or Borderline Is Lying?
Their lips are moving. The End. That’s a facile and clichéd answer, but, more often than not, an accurate one. Sociopaths, psychopaths, narcissists, borderlines and histrionics lie for many reasons. Self-preservation (e.g., to avoid jail or other unwanted natural consequences for their bad behavior), to manipulate or exploit others to get money, sympathy, power, attention, security, a relationship […]