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May 14, 2018

How Narcissists Twist and Use Words Against You

Communicating with narcissists . . . why do we bother? I’m exhausted just thinking about it. Between their penchant for tossing word salad, pathological lying, broken promises, deliberate provocations, pretzel twisting words, putting words in your mouth that were never there — it’s both pointless and exhausting. Unless, of course, the narcissist or borderline is […]

Filed Under: Abusive relationships, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Custody, Dating, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Healthy Relationships, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Narcissistic abuse, Narcissistic Personality Disorder Tagged With: borderline personality disorder, communication, conflict, high-conflict people, JADE, lying, narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissists

February 4, 2018

Narcissist Fight Club Rule #5: Defending Yourself Makes You More Vulnerable

Arguing with narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths and other emotionally immature and unstable personalities is usually a pointless exercise for several reasons. First, narcissists aren’t interested in equitable solutions. They want to “win.” In my experience, they’re the most determined to win (i.e., punish you), when they’re objectively wrong. They take perverse pleasure in getting others to […]

Filed Under: Abuse, Abusive relationships, Accountability, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Dating, Divorce, Domestic Violence Tagged With: abusive wife, borderline personality disorder, conflict, emotional reasoning, empathy, false self, high-conflict people, histrionic personality disorder, JADE, narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, projection, psychopaths

November 15, 2010

High-Conflict Phases of Abuse, Blame Shifting, Distortion, Rage and Manipulation Diagram

Although this post is published under my name (Dr Tara J. Palmatier) it was actually written by one of my clients who is also a doctor in another health field. A couple weeks ago, he sent a diagram (included below) he created to discuss during our upcoming session. I was blown away. The diagram captures […]

Filed Under: Abuse, Blame, Domestic Violence, High-Conflict, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Personality Disorders, Physical Abuse, Professional Victims, Psychological Abuse, Rage Tagged With: abuse, abusive wife, blame shifting, conflict, cycle of abuse, distortion, domestic violence, high-conflict, high-conflict people, manipulation, narcissistic personality disorder, phases of abuse, rage

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