A frequent question in my counseling practice and from website subscribers is “Do narcissists and borderlines get better with age?” Another common question is, “What happens when they get old and are no longer attractive?” These are understandable questions. The latter is a form of anticipatory schadenfreude. The former is a common part of the […]
Why No Contact is So Hard After an Abusive Relationship with a Narcissist, Borderline or Psychopath
If you still believe you love your narcissistic, borderline or psychopathic ex, practicing and maintaining No Contact can be very difficult initially. Excruciatingly, painfully difficult. Many of my clients compare it to withdrawing from a drug. Neuro-chemically speaking, there are similarities. You’re hurting, and you want the pain to stop. To ease the pain you […]
Are You Institutionalized? Dating After Divorcing an Abusive, High-Conflict Spouse
The articles What I Wish I Knew Before Marrying a Man with a Crazy Ex-Wife, Fortifying Your Fortress: Healthy Boundaries Are Your Best Defense Against Abusive High-Conflict Personalities, and Dating After Divorcing a High-Conflict Woman: Are You Ready to Date Again? raise several issues men and women face after being married to Crazy. Many men […]