Ever feel like you and the narcissistic or borderline spouse or ex are speaking two different languages? That, even though you’re technically using the same words, they have different meanings? If so, it’s probably because their definitions of, for example, “co-parenting” and “abuse” are much different than the definitions found in Merriam-Webster’s dictionary. This can […]

In this video, I debunk the urban legend that borderlines and narcissists are some kind of mythical, magical sexual virtuosos to which healthier (i.e., non-disordered) women and men can’t compare. It’s rubbish. Furthermore, if you continue to repeat the falsehood you’re undermining your own healing. Once you accept that you have value and worth, you […]

Narcissists and borderlines tend to minimize or deny a codependent partner’s good qualities and exaggerate the negative. Conversely, trauma bonded codependents tend to exaggerate a narcissistic, borderline or alcoholic partner’s good qualities (even seeing attributes that don’t exist) and minimize or deny the negative. See the problem? This dynamic has several consequences. It can lead […]