This article is the follow-up to BPD Ambush: How Borderlines Weaponize Therapy. It’s a real-life story of what happened when Goldie, recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, discovered her husband, Victor, had scheduled a session with me. (Names and identifying information have been changed for obvious reasons.) Before diving in, here’s a quick recap: Goldie […]

Many clients wrongly believe that setting boundaries with a borderline or narcissistic partner will magically fix the relationship. It won’t. Nevertheless, boundaries are essential—I encourage every client to set them. But I also stress two things: It won’t be easy—for them or their disordered partner. Setting boundaries is usually the beginning of the end. To […]

If a high-conflict ex can’t provoke you over text or email anymore, guess where they’ll try to engage you next? That’s right—the custody exchange. If you’re dealing with a narcissistic (NPD) or borderline (BPD) ex, custody hand-offs can become an opportunity for yet another one of their power struggles. And with these types, anything and […]