Do you share custody with a narcissist or borderline? If so, it’s time to face the harsh reality. Co-parenting with a narcissist means “being the asshole.” Therefore, you may as well get comfortable with it. Or, better yet, embrace it! Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think you’re an asshole. Well, I don’t know you, […]

Is it okay to call a borderline or narcissistic ex crazy? Do you describe ice as cold? Is it insensitive to describe Saint Bernard’s as furry? If you burn your hand on the stove is it insensitive to exclaim, “That’s hot!” Is it okay to say Kermit the Frog is green? Basically, if someone projects […]

In Couples Counseling with Narcissists and Borderlines, Part 1, I explain the inherent difficulties in doing couples therapy with personality disordered partners. In many cases, couples counseling with narcissists and borderlines becomes a theater of blame. Essentially, the therapy office becomes another stage upon which the abuse, blame shifting and projection play out.  Moreover, these […]