When relationships with narcissists and borderlines end, it often triggers fears of abandonment and losing control of you. Or, more accurately, breaking up intensifies their usual abandonment and loss of control fears. This can occur even when they’re the ones who end the relationship. Hoovers are an example of the NPD’s/BPD’s abandonment avoidance and control […]

Narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths and histrionics are frequently also pathological liars. Pathological liars, regardless of an official diagnosis, follow predictable behavior patterns when their lies are exposed. If you’re in an abusive relationship with one of these individuals, you may have experienced one or more of the following reactions when catching them red-handed in a lie: […]

Ever feel like you and the narcissistic or borderline spouse or ex are speaking two different languages? That, even though you’re technically using the same words, they have different meanings? If so, it’s probably because their definitions of, for example, “co-parenting” and “abuse” are much different than the definitions found in Merriam-Webster’s dictionary. This can […]