For people in abusive relationships, sheltering in place with a narcissist or borderline is a whole new circle of hell in an already toxic situation. Many clients stay for the kids. They’re afraid to leave the children in the narcissistic or borderline parent’s care without being there to act as a buffer. Some clients stay […]

When relationships with narcissists and borderlines end, it often triggers fears of abandonment and losing control of you. Or, more accurately, breaking up intensifies their usual abandonment and loss of control fears. This can occur even when they’re the ones who end the relationship. Hoovers are an example of the NPD’s/BPD’s abandonment avoidance and control […]

Narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths and histrionics are frequently also pathological liars. Pathological liars, regardless of an official diagnosis, follow predictable behavior patterns when their lies are exposed. If you’re in an abusive relationship with one of these individuals, you may have experienced one or more of the following reactions when catching them red-handed in a lie: […]