Do narcissists have a preferred type? Yes, they do. Or rather, they have preferred types of traits. First, there are demographics, e.g., young, old, muscular, thin or curvy. Sometimes, the narcissist’s preferred target demographics change as they age. *Notice I didn’t say mature! For example, some narcissists seek high status types. By high status, I […]

Co-parenting with Narcissists and Borderlines: Defining the Problem. This is the first in a video series about the challenges of raising healthy kids with the high-conflict parent. Or rather, raising healthy kids in spite of the high-conflict parent. Actually, traditional co-parenting with personality disordered parents usually doesn’t work. A better approach is parallel parenting. Part […]

What does it mean when a narcissist or borderline ex contacts your therapist? There are several possible answers to this question. Nevertheless, they all boil down to a narcissist is going to narcissist and a borderline is going to borderline. Over the years, client’s exes and spouses have tried to contact me. I say, “tried,” […]