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March 29, 2018

Why Do Narcissists Enjoy Conflict and Drama?

Why can’t she just stop? Why does he keep doing this? I don’t even know what the arguments are about half the time anymore. We keep going around and around in circles. Just as things seem to be calming down and we’re getting to a good place, she or he starts back up again. I’m […]

Filed Under: Abuse, Abusive relationships, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Blame, Borderline Personality Disorder, High-Conflict, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Narcissistic abuse, Narcissistic Personality Disorder Tagged With: abuse, abusive wife, borderline personality disorder, chaos, drama, false self, guilt, high-conflict, JADE, narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, obligation

July 16, 2012

More Thoughts on FOG, Hoovers and No Contact When Ending a Relationship with a Narcissist, Borderline, Histrionic and/or Sociopath

Many of my clients often have difficulty after ending their relationships with an abusive and crazy ex. These men and women torture themselves with self-doubt (Am I doing the right thing?), self-recrimination (Why am I so stupid? Why did I put up with her/his behavior for so long? Why did I have kids with that […]

Filed Under: Abuse, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Domestic Violence, Financial Abuse, Healing, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Personality Disorders, Physical Abuse, Professional Victims, Psychological Abuse, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Unhealthy Relationships Tagged With: abused men, abusive women, borderline personality disorder, control, fear, FOG, guilt, histrionic personality disorder, hoover, hoovering, Hoovers, isolation, narcissistic personality disorder, no contact, obligation, self-doubt, sociopaths

March 28, 2012

Hoovers: Don’t Let the Crazy Suck You Back In

On the Shrink4Men Forum, there are several gentlemen in the process of ending relationships with abusive wives and girlfriends. Predictably, this has triggered their partners’ abandonment fears and control issues. Oftentimes, when an abusive personality senses they are losing their target/victim or that their target/victim is pulling away, they will make efforts to re-secure their […]

Filed Under: Abuse, Borderline Personality Disorder, Dating, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Healing, High-Conflict, Marriage, Personality Disorders, Physical Abuse, Professional Victims, Psychological Abuse, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Stalking and Harassment, Unhealthy Relationships Tagged With: abuse, abused men, abusive personality-disordered individuals, abusive women, borderline personality disorder, concern troll, dissociation, domestic violence, emotional blackmail, emotionally abusive women, fear, FOG, guilt, hoover, hoovered, hoovering, love bombing, manipulation, obligation, parasucidal gestures, personality disorders, personality-disordered individual, physical abuse, relationship recycling, trance

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