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March 28, 2012

Hoovers: Don’t Let the Crazy Suck You Back In

On the Shrink4Men Forum, there are several gentlemen in the process of ending relationships with abusive wives and girlfriends. Predictably, this has triggered their partners’ abandonment fears and control issues. Oftentimes, when an abusive personality senses they are losing their target/victim or that their target/victim is pulling away, they will make efforts to re-secure their […]

Filed Under: Abuse, Borderline Personality Disorder, Dating, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Healing, High-Conflict, Marriage, Personality Disorders, Physical Abuse, Professional Victims, Psychological Abuse, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Stalking and Harassment, Unhealthy Relationships Tagged With: abuse, abused men, abusive personality-disordered individuals, abusive women, borderline personality disorder, concern troll, dissociation, domestic violence, emotional blackmail, emotionally abusive women, fear, FOG, guilt, hoover, hoovered, hoovering, love bombing, manipulation, obligation, parasucidal gestures, personality disorders, personality-disordered individual, physical abuse, relationship recycling, trance

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