Surviving the first holiday season without the narcissist or borderline ex is often anything but merry. If you’ve been in a relationship with a personality-disordered individual—or come from a family brimming with characterological chaos—you likely have some holiday horror stories to share. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year’s, Valentine’s Day, birthdays, or even National Arbor Day […]
Co-Parenting with a Borderline: Being the Asshole, Part 3
Yes, I’m a Clinical Psychologist and, yes, I’m encouraging you to be “the asshole” when co-parenting with a borderline or narcissist ex. Shocking, right? Contrary to most other advice? That depends. I’m anti-enabling and anti-apologist when it comes to dealing with borderlines, narcissists and other high-conflict, characterologically disturbed personalities. Part one of this series examines […]
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Being “the Asshole,” Part 2
In part one of this series, I explain why co-parenting with a narcissist means being “the asshole.” To clarify, being the asshole doesn’t mean being an arrogant, controlling, unreasonable jerk. Rather, it means being indifferent to the narcissist’s opinions and feelings about you. It means practicing accountability and becoming immune to the borderline’s continued attempts […]
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