Have you ever felt like you and your narcissistic or borderline spouse are speaking two different languages? If so, it’s probably because you are. To quote Inigo Montoya (The Princess Bride, 1987): “You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.” Part of my clinical work involves reviewing […]
Narcissists, Phones and your Right to Privacy
In an era of social media over-sharing, it can be easy to forget that we have a right to privacy. We also have a right to privacy in our intimate relationships — even if we “have nothing to hide.” I hear that quite a bit from clients and the occasional friend who have surrendered their […]
Basic Facts and Statistics about Restraining Order Abuse in Divorce and Custody Disputes
Abusive relationships often escalate in intensity when a victim tries to become healthy by setting boundaries and practicing self-care, and/or ending the relationship. If you’re in an abusive relationship with a narcissist, borderline, histrionic, dependent, paranoiac or psychopath (i.e., high-conflict personalities that are often abusive in their intimate relationships) don’t be surprised if your abuser […]