If you still believe you love your narcissistic, borderline or psychopathic ex, practicing and maintaining No Contact can be very difficult initially. Excruciatingly, painfully difficult. Many of my clients compare it to withdrawing from a drug. Neuro-chemically speaking, there are similarities. You’re hurting, and you want the pain to stop. To ease the pain you […]
In His Own Words: Self-Reflections at the End of an Abusive Marriage
It’s day 30 of Domestic Violence Awareness Month for men and boys, the invisible victims of domestic violence. TI85 reflects upon his marriage, his behavior and his soon-to-be ex’s behavior as he begins the divorce process. He experienced several kinds of abuse while married, including gaslighting, emotional abuse, physical abuse, jealousy, rage, passive aggression, blame […]
Dr Phil and Domestic Violence: He Just Doesn’t Get It
Oh, Dr Phil. . . From time to time, Shrink4Men community members email to let me know that they’ve sent links of my articles to the Dr Phil and Oprah shows because they believe the material here is important and should be seen by a wider audience. I thank them, but tell them not to […]