Yes, I’m a Clinical Psychologist and, yes, I’m encouraging you to be “the asshole” when co-parenting with a borderline or narcissist ex. Shocking, right? Contrary to most other advice? That depends. I’m anti-enabling and anti-apologist when it comes to dealing with borderlines, narcissists and other high-conflict, characterologically disturbed personalities. Part one of this series examines […]
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Being “the Asshole,” Part 2
In part one of this series, I explain why co-parenting with a narcissist means being “the asshole.” To clarify, being the asshole doesn’t mean being an arrogant, controlling, unreasonable jerk. Rather, it means being indifferent to the narcissist’s opinions and feelings about you. It means practicing accountability and becoming immune to the borderline’s continued attempts […]
Blame and Rage: What Narcissists and Borderlines Call Problem-Solving [Video]
Emotionally immature people typically have poor problem-solving skills, or a complete lack of them. In intimate relationships, narcissists and borderlines bully, guilt trip, play the victim, throw tantrums, become physically violent, destroy property, disappear, give the silent treatment, name-call, blame shift and engage in other dysfunctional behaviors to silence criticism, evade accountability and justify not […]
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