What is DARVO? Deny, attack and reverse victim and offender. Have you ever wondered why your narcissistic or borderline spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend or ex is able to do and say the most hurtful, underhanded and contemptible things and then portray themselves as the innocent victim? Do you marvel at how they’re able to aggress and […]
High-Conflict Phases of Abuse, Blame Shifting, Distortion, Rage and Manipulation Diagram
Although this post is published under my name (Dr Tara J. Palmatier) it was actually written by one of my clients who is also a doctor in another health field. A couple weeks ago, he sent a diagram (included below) he created to discuss during our upcoming session. I was blown away. The diagram captures […]
Blame and Rage: What Narcissists and Borderlines Call Problem-Solving
Have you ever wondered why your abusive wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend or ex blames others, makes excuses or rages when you question their behavior? Do they often behave like an out of control child? Does conflict feel like a pointless, circular losing battle with them, no matter how fact-based and reasonable you are? Does she […]