Surviving the first holiday season without the narcissist or borderline ex is often anything but merry. If you’ve been in a relationship with a personality-disordered individual—or come from a family brimming with characterological chaos—you likely have some holiday horror stories to share. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year’s, Valentine’s Day, birthdays, or even National Arbor Day […]
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Being “the Asshole,” Part 2
In part one of this series, I explain why co-parenting with a narcissist means being “the asshole.” To clarify, being the asshole doesn’t mean being an arrogant, controlling, unreasonable jerk. Rather, it means being indifferent to the narcissist’s opinions and feelings about you. It means practicing accountability and becoming immune to the borderline’s continued attempts […]
Boundaries Protect You from Narcissists and Borderlines, Part 3: The Very Basics
In Part 1 of this series, I discuss the importance of the law of reciprocity. If a relationship isn’t reciprocal, it will eventually become a source of anger and resentment. Healthy relationships can’t exist on a one-way street paved with double standards. Part 2 explains the joy of saying no. I discuss secondary gains and […]
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