As part of my work with clients, I sometimes review text communications from abusive and likely personality disordered spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends and exes. It’s not exactly what one would describe as enjoyable reading material. Much of it is venomous, relentless, dictatorial and angry bloviating sentence fragments or walls of text dripping with entitlement. The texts […]
Narcissist Fight Club Rule #5: Defending Yourself Makes You More Vulnerable
Arguing with narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths and other emotionally immature and unstable personalities is usually a pointless exercise for several reasons. First, narcissists aren’t interested in equitable solutions. They want to “win.” In my experience, they’re the most determined to win (i.e., punish you), when they’re objectively wrong. They take perverse pleasure in getting others to […]
Narcissist Fight Club Rule 3: The Fight Isn’t Over Until You Admit You’re Wrong
Being in a relationship with a narcissist, borderline, histrionic, psychopath or other personality disordered abuser can be a topsy turvy roller coaster ride. Mutual rules of decency, honesty, respect and reciprocity are, as far as the narcissist is concerned, optional. Or, to be more clear, optional for the narcissist. The narcissist’s or borderline’s spouse, partner, […]
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