In this video, I debunk the urban legend that borderlines and narcissists are some kind of mythical, magical sexual virtuosos to which healthier (i.e., non-disordered) women and men can’t compare. It’s rubbish. Furthermore, if you continue to repeat the falsehood you’re undermining your own healing. Once you accept that you have value and worth, you […]

Narcissists and borderlines tend to minimize or deny a codependent partner’s good qualities and exaggerate the negative. Conversely, trauma bonded codependents tend to exaggerate a narcissistic, borderline or alcoholic partner’s good qualities (even seeing attributes that don’t exist) and minimize or deny the negative. See the problem? This dynamic has several consequences. It can lead […]

“I’d end the relationship, but the sex is the best I’ve ever had.” “It’s like porno sex.” “She was like an animal. She wanted it all the time.” “She did the most outrageous things. We had sex in the restaurant bathroom stall on the first date.” “We used to have sex all the time. She […]