For the past 20 years, I’ve worked with countless men navigating relationships with women who exhibit Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD), or other high-conflict personality traits. A recurring theme? The massive gap between what therapists claim should work and what happens in real life outside the therapy office. […]
Christmas Chaos: Coping with a Narcissistic or Borderline Wife
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) and Christmas go together like dynamite and a detonator. Kaboom. If you’re married or dating one of these individuals—someone who thrives on drama and professional martyrdom—then you’re probably already doing a “Jenny Curran” (Forrest Gump). As in, “Dear God, make me a […]
How to Protect Yourself from a Holiday Hoover By a BPD or NPD Ex
The holidays can be a time of joy, connection, and celebration. Unfortunately, if you’re dealing with a borderline, histrionic, or narcissistic ex, it can also be a prime opportunity for some Yuletide drama, manipulation, and relationship relapse. Perhaps you’re already familiar with the Holiday Hoover—the attempt by your BPD, HPD, or NPD ex to suck […]