Full disclosure. I am not a fan of Kim Kardashian or any of the other Kardashians. I have never watched an episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians. I will never watch an episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians or any spin-offs in the Kardashian “oeuvre.”
I have zero interest in celubutantes who ride on their rich father’s and/or family’s coattails and become “famous for being famous.” They’re much ado about nothing if you ask me.
Kim Kardashian and her ilk call to mind what Katharine Hepburn said about Sharon Stone when she shot to fame after Basic Instinct became a hit:
It’s a new low for actresses when you have to wonder what’s between her ears instead of her legs.
So why am I writing about Kim Kardashian?
On a recent episode of Dr. Drew Pinsky’s show, Dr. Drew aired a clip from the Kardashian sisters’ reality series, Kourtney & Kim Take New York, in which Kim Kardashian takes a swing at her recently estranged husband, Kris Humphries of the New Jersey Nets.
Dr. Drew states, in no uncertain terms, that what takes place in the video below is female perpetrated domestic violence:
Dr. Drew emphatically says at 0:31, “What you are seeing there is domestic violence.” Apparently, this was a matter of some debate amongst Dr. Drew’s producers and production staff who argued that Kim Kardashian throwing a punch at Kris Humphries was just “play.”
Would it have been considered just “play” or a “joke” if Humphries had taken a swing at Kardashian? Of course not.
I am sick and tired of how some women and men continue to condone violence perpetrated by women. Violence is violence. It is not “funny” or “cute” or “play” when a women does it. If men are expected to take oaths to never perpetrate violence against women (never mind the fact that most men don’t commit violence against women with or without taking an oath), then women need to hold themselves to the same standard.
Dr. Drew believes the video of Kim Kardashian hitting Kris Humphries is a big deal. I agree. Especially since Kardashian’s target audience are impressionable tweens, teens and young women. Hitting your husband or boyfriend is not play; it is violence.
At 1:37, Dr. Drew says the following about domestic violence:
Size and gender doesn’t matter.
Hallelujah! Hallelujah! Hal-lay-hay-loo-hoo-yah!
This was a much needed factual and emotionally corrective experience after watching the Dr. Phil episode in which Dr. Phil McGraw claims that men can never be abused by women because men are bigger and stronger. This is the same episode in which Dr. Phil claims that when a man is abusive, it’s domestic violence, and that when a woman is violent and abusive, it’s a “relationship issue.”
And then, at 2:12, Dr. Drew loses me.
He states that it isn’t okay when Humphries grabs Kardashian’s arm to stop her incoming blows. That is self-defense, not domestic violence. Everyone, men and women, have the right to defend themselves from being assaulted no matter the gender of the assailant. Humphries did not hurt Kardashian. He did not appear to use unreasonable force. He was fending off her attack. Self-defense.
Nevertheless, Dr. Drew’s commentary seems to be a huge step forward. A mainstream television personality/psychiatrist and his sidekick female psychologist both publicly stated that Kim Kardashian throwing a punch at her husband, Kris Humphries, is domestic violence. Perhaps it’s not much in the big scheme of things, but it’s a start and I’ll take it.
Here’s the altercation frame by frame:
Who would have thought Amber Portwood of Teen Mom and Kim Kardashian had something in common besides being “reality stars?”
What do you think? Do you think this is an instance of domestic violence?
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