Narcissists and borderlines tend to minimize or deny a codependent partner’s good qualities and exaggerate the negative. Conversely, trauma bonded codependents tend to exaggerate a narcissistic, borderline or alcoholic partner’s good qualities (even seeing attributes that don’t exist) and minimize or deny the negative. See the problem? This dynamic has several consequences. It can lead […]

“I’d end the relationship, but the sex is the best I’ve ever had.” “It’s like porno sex.” “She was like an animal. She wanted it all the time.” “She did the most outrageous things. We had sex in the restaurant bathroom stall on the first date.” “We used to have sex all the time. She […]

In Love Bombing, Brainwashing, Trauma Bonds, Narcissists and Borderlines, Part 2, I discuss similar traits that cult victims and victims of narcissists and borderlines share. Specifically, the personality characteristics that make them vulnerable. I also and the similar necessary conditions to successfully brain wash and to create a codependent-trauma bond attachment. Vulnerabilities include the 3 […]