In case you’ve any doubt This. Is. Nuts. If you don’t understand why it’s nuts. I’m sorry. I can’t help you. Maybe her ex is a flaming narcissist. There’s no way to know. Even if he is, here’s what jumps out at me:
- Her disregard for every individual’s right to privacy as indicated by the scare quotes around “respected his privacy.”
- She “almost never snooped.” Er, yeah right.
- She (all caps) “NEEDED” to see his phone that day. Seeing a boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s phone isn’t oxygen, therefore, it’s not a need.
- Upon refusing her demand, she reflexively threatened to destroy his property.
- She didn’t “hesitate” to destroy his “precious” (i.e., resents a possession he loves) guitar.
- “It got a little physical.” Like when she was trying to rip his property away from him? Or when she destroyed another piece of his property with brio?
- His emotions from seeing his property destroyed were, according to her, “fake.” I’d be genuinely upset if someone deliberately destroyed one of my prized possessions or less meaningful possessions for that matter. As in call the police upset and permanently delete that person from my life upset.
- She wanted him to “pay” for her bad feelings — whatever the cause of them might have been. You address hurt feelings and try to resolve them. You don’t make someone “pay.”
- She feels “warm and fuzzy” recollecting destroying his property. P-S-Y-C-H-O.
- She feels so proud of her behavior that she’s posting about it on social media.
How many victims of narcissistic abuse groups do you want to guess she belongs to with meme after meme about being a SURVIVOR?
Many people who’ve been in a toxic relationship with a NPD/BPD have been pushed to the edge of sanity due to their provocative crazy-making behavior. Even so, people of integrity and good character don’t feel pride in sinking to the nutjob’s level. You feel remorse and shame that you devolved to such a level of dysfunction. Good grief.
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