First grade teacher Lynn Ellen Field of Waller, Texas received 2 years probation for “criminal mischief” yesterday.
She pleaded guilty to criminal mischief in order to receive a lesser sentence. In reality, Ms Field committed arson and burglary. The target of her firebuggery is her ex-husband and his new wife.
The HoustonPress reports:
Field, a first-grade teacher, did what any one of us would do if we were not thinking very clearly at all: She went to her ex-husband’s Sugar Land house, tried to set a bedroom on fire, threw things around the back yard, and tried to break a window with a propane tank.
She’ll do 60 weekend days in jail, 250 hours of community service, attend weekly mental-health counseling and pay a $1,000 fine and $5,600 in restitution.
She has been on leave from her job teaching first-graders.
At the time of her arrest, the district sent a letter home to parents saying “”Waller ISD employees are expected to serve as role models for our students and demonstrate exemplary behavior.”
“Exemplary behavior” apparently does not include going apeshit when your ex-husband remarries.
The Chron reports:
According to Sugar Land police reports, Field broke into her former husband’s home in the Telfair subdivision on May 1 while he was in Galveston getting remarried. She used a cigarette lighter to set a fire to the mattress of a guest bedroom, which caused damage to the room, a walk-in closet and an attached bathroom.
While in the backyard, she detached a propane tank from a grill to smash a double-pane window, but was only able to break the outer pane. She also dumped numerous potted plants, a power washer and a metal garden cross in the pool, the reports state.
Field originally was indicted by a Fort Bend County grand jury in May on two felony charges: arson and burglary of a habitation.
According to the police reports, she confessed to a detective, saying she was upset after having a few drinks and hearing the news about her ex-husband’s wedding.
The justice system had this woman dead to rights. She was guilty. She confessed.
Instead of sending her to jail for arson, they let her take a lesser offense, “criminal mischief.” I’m not an attorney, but I believe this is what teenagers are charged with who toilet paper fronts lawns, smash pumpkins at Halloween and other acts of petty vandalism.
How does a person go from arson to criminal mischief? Would they have let a man plea to the lesser offense or would he rightfully be sitting in jail for arson?
Furthermore, she’s only on leave from her job teaching first graders. Would you want this woman teaching your 6-year old child? Why didn’t she immediately lose her job? Wouldn’t a male teacher lose his job for the same crime?
In addition to highlighting the glaring double standards in the U.S. Justice system when it comes to sentencing women who commit crimes, Ms Field’s misadventures illustrate just how dangerous high-conflict and/or personality disordered women can be—even after and especially after you believe your relationship is over.
The articles cited above as sources don’t state that Ms Field has a personality disorder, but clearly something isn’t right. I could speculate about possible diagnoses. Let’s see, what kind of personality disorder might be implicated here?
Ex-husband remarries. Ex-wife learns about the marriage on the day of the wedding. Her abandonment/rejection issues get triggered, she becomes enraged, has a few drinks (i.e., Whoopsy—I was drunk and, therefore, not responsible for my actions), she breaks and enters into her ex’s home, sets it on fire and tears up his garden and breaks stuff.
Fortunately, most suspected HCPs (high-conflict people) and/or APDIs (abusive personality disordered individuals; borderline, narcissistic, anti-social, histrionic, paranoid, etc.) don’t go to this extreme. However, they are incredibly destructive in other ways. If children are involved, they perpetrate parental alienation. They engage in smear campaigns. They make false allegations. They deny access to children. They target and go after new spouses and girlfriends.
This is why you must be so very careful about the women you couple with romantically. When dealing with HCPs/APDIs, there seems to be three types of behaviors post-break up.
- Cut-off queens. This kind of woman cuts you out of her life without looking back as she moves on to her next target.
- I can’t quit you. There is no leaving this kind of woman. She won’t let you. She will go to any length to remain connected and engage with you—even if one or both of you are remarried. They often use shared children to do so.
- Intermittent resurfacers. This kind of woman resurfaces periodically. This typically happens when she learns you’re dating or becoming serious about a new woman and/or when her latest target has gotten wise to her and flown the coop.
Why do I post stories about women like Lynn Ellen Field? Because society needs to start taking the danger these kinds of women pose seriously. We also need to start holding these women accountable and give them the same level of punishment as men who commit the same offenses. Police need to start taking these women seriously, too, and quit arresting men when the woman is the violent partner.
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