To a narcissist or borderline, the more right you are the more wrong you are. Conflict is about getting a win. The substance of the argument is irrelevant. The narcissist’s and borderline’s false self demands that they be the “righteous victim.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Id48mtAwXro&lc=Ugyti7AHmLH0IxIOegB4AaABAg Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD Dr. Tara J. […]

If this is your first Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year’s after breaking up or divorcing your abusive narcissistic, borderline or sociopathic ex, you may be feeling lonely. Maybe you’re second guessing yourself, wondering if breaking up was the right decision. What if you’d just given her or him a 2,483rd chance? What if you could […]

Many people look forward to the holidays. They enjoy seeing friends and family, twinkle lights, decorations, parties, special foods and giving gifts to  loved ones. They seek drama by attending performances of The Nutcracker Suite or watching It’s a Wonderful Life or the endless loop of The Christmas Story on the Super Station. “You’ll shoot your eye […]