Boundary is a frequently used self-help genre term. Just because it’s routinely used doesn’t mean it’s well-understood. Some people believe a boundary is something used to control others. It isn’t. Some people think having boundaries will magically change a personality disordered individual’s personality. It won’t. For example, many clients mistakenly believe creating boundaries (after not […]

Many clients become hyper-focused on spotting personality disorder Red Flags after being in a relationship with an abusive narcissist, borderline or psychopath. They’re reluctant to date again until they feel certain they’ll be able to detect all the warning signs. This is understandable. After being burned that badly, of course you don’t want to go […]

To a narcissist or borderline, the more right you are the more wrong you are. Conflict is about getting a win. The substance of the argument is irrelevant. The narcissist’s and borderline’s false self demands that they be the “righteous victim.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Id48mtAwXro&lc=Ugyti7AHmLH0IxIOegB4AaABAg Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD Dr. Tara J. […]