Introduction: Do Narcissists and Borderlines Have a Type? Yes, they do. But it’s not so much a “type” as a set of preferred traits. Narcissists and borderlines may focus on certain demographics—young, old, muscular, thin, or curvy. As they age, these preferences may change. Notice I didn’t say mature. Some narcissists and borderlines seek “high-status” […]

Co-parenting with Narcissists and Borderlines: Defining the Problem. This is the first in a video series about the challenges of raising healthy kids with the high-conflict parent. Or rather, raising healthy kids in spite of the high-conflict parent. Actually, traditional co-parenting with personality disordered parents usually doesn’t work. A better approach is parallel parenting. Part […]

What does it mean when a narcissist or borderline ex contacts your therapist? There are several possible answers to this question. Nevertheless, they all boil down to a narcissist is going to narcissist and a borderline is going to borderline. Over the years, client’s exes and spouses have tried to contact me. I say, “tried,” […]