In the dating pool, making money from claiming to be a victim is a Red Flag. A great big big one. If a new potential  partner (or casual hook-up) recites a list of past victimization, proceed with caution. If you ignore this Red Flag, you could be the next “soulmate” cast in the role of […]

Healing trauma from relationships with narcissists and borderlines and other personality disordered abusers isn’t a simple matter of just getting over it and letting go. However, some people have an easier time grieving and healing. There are several reasons for this. Basically, it boils down to either having a high resiliency to trauma or low […]

How are professional martyrs and professional victims different? Or, to put it another way, what’s the difference between bad shellfish and bad pork? Both are toxic and will likely make you sick, albeit in different ways. Professional martyrs and professional victims are like dysfunctional kissing cousins. Ultimately, they’re more similar than dissimilar. Both professional victims […]