The holidays can be a time of joy, connection, and celebration. Unfortunately, if you’re dealing with a borderline, histrionic, or narcissistic ex, it can also be a prime opportunity for some Yuletide drama, manipulation, and relationship relapse. Perhaps you’re already familiar with the Holiday Hoover—the attempt by your BPD, HPD, or NPD ex to suck […]

What does “My Truth” mean to narcissists and borderlines? Short answer: Run for cover! Incoming one-sided, self-serving bullshit! In other words, you’re about to experience the weaponization of personal narratives—many of which are likely false or greatly exaggerated, distorted projections. “My Truth” is a variation of a common refrain frequently weaponized by narcissists, borderlines, histrionics, […]

Narcissists and borderlines with a Tendency for Interpersonal Victimhood (TIV) are the proverbial perfect storm in high-conflict divorce cases, especially when it comes to false abuse allegations. Given the rampant misuse of restraining orders and the prevalence of high-conflict cases in family court, it baffles me why so many judges, attorneys, custody evaluators, guardians ad […]