If a high-conflict ex can’t provoke you over text or email anymore, guess where they’ll try to engage you next? That’s right—the custody exchange. If you’re dealing with a narcissistic (NPD) or borderline (BPD) ex, custody hand-offs can become an opportunity for yet another one of their power struggles. And with these types, anything and […]
Why DBT Fails in BPD Relationships: The Theory vs. Reality Gap
For the past 20 years, I’ve worked with countless men navigating relationships with women who exhibit Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD), or other high-conflict personality traits. A recurring theme? The massive gap between what therapists claim should work and what happens in real life outside the therapy office. […]
Christmas Chaos: Coping with a Narcissistic or Borderline Wife
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) and Christmas go together like dynamite and a detonator. Kaboom. If you’re married or dating one of these individuals—someone who thrives on drama and professional martyrdom—then you’re probably already doing a “Jenny Curran” (Forrest Gump). As in, “Dear God, make me a […]