Divorcing a narcissist or borderline isn’t just the end of a marriage—it’s stepping into a battlefield, where understanding the narcissist’s stages of grievance is a matter of self-defense. Previously, in Narcissists Don’t Feel Grief—They Feel Aggrieved—in High-Conflict Divorce, I explored how narcissists and borderlines react to loss as a threat to their false self, leading […]

Narcissists don’t experience grief like most people do. Instead of grieving, they feel aggrieved. Narcissists, borderlines, and other personality disordered individuals are incapable of healthily navigating the stages of grief. Their chronic emotional immaturity, lack of self-awareness, and self-centeredness make it impossible to process grief constructively. This dysfunction becomes especially apparent in high-conflict divorces, custody […]

How do narcissists react when you catch them lying? Narcissists, borderlines, histrionics, and other toxic people rarely admit their lies. They’re psychologically incapable of it. There’s seldom a moment of chagrined embarrassment, as if to say, “Well, you got me!” They won’t acknowledge that your memory of events is accurate, nor will they admit that […]