Is it okay to call a borderline or narcissistic ex crazy? Do you describe ice as cold? Is it insensitive to describe Saint Bernard’s as furry? If you burn your hand on the stove is it insensitive to exclaim, “That’s hot!” Is it okay to say Kermit the Frog is green?
Basically, if someone projects like a like a missile launcher and gaslights like a fuel truck explosion, it’s crazy. If someone lies like Pinocchio on crystal meth, it’s crazy. Furthermore, if someone becomes enraged by facts, logic and accountability, it’s crazy.
This video discusses how male abuse victims are shamed for accurately describing an ex’s behavior as crazy. I’m not suggesting calling an ex crazy names using psychiatric labels or the layman’s term crazy. Nevertheless, many behaviors engaged in by narcissists, borderlines, histrionics and psychopaths is often extreme and pathological. Or, what most people would call crazy.
Is it okay to call a borderline or narcissistic ex crazy? Ultimately, that’s for you to decide. Does doing so help you make sense of what you experienced in the relationship? Or help you explain your experiences to friends, family and support professionals? If so, then it’s okay.
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