Couples therapy with narcissists and borderlines can be tricky. It can also worsen problems if the couples therapist doesn’t understand the underlying issues. Namely, an undiagnosed personality disorder(s), codependency and/or trauma bonding. Ideally, couples therapy can be a fruitful endeavor when two adults equally commit to improve themselves, their relationship and grow together. Couples therapy […]

What do narcissists mean by, “Let’s make a fresh start?” To paraphrase The Princess Bride’s Inigo Montoya, it probably does not mean what you think it means. In my experience, narcissists, borderlines and other emotionally manipulative people have their very own lexicon. While the words may read and sound the same as their entries in […]

So, you’re attending couples therapy with a narcissist or borderline. Good luck with that! Kidding aside, if you’re seeking help, you may be walking into a buzzsaw if you’re a man and the abuser is a woman. Nowadays, there’s a strong anti-male sentiment in Psychology. Couples therapy with a narcissist and anti-male bias oftentimes becomes […]