Tone-policing men’s pain is a cultural silencing tactic. One that serves to keeps male victims invisible and female perpetrators unaccountable. Supporting male victims isn’t evidence of misogyny. It shows that you have basic human decency. There are very few taboo topics left in modern society. Norms have all but been eroded. People shamelessly broadcast their […]

This article is the follow-up to BPD Ambush: How Borderlines Weaponize Therapy. It’s a real-life story of what happened when Goldie, recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, discovered her husband, Victor, had scheduled a session with me. (Names and identifying information have been changed for obvious reasons.) Before diving in, here’s a quick recap: Goldie […]

When a borderline or narcissistic partner feels their control slipping — when accountability, boundaries, or the threat of divorce enter the picture — they often weaponize couples therapy to regain power and reclaim their victim narrative. The therapy room isn’t neutral ground. It becomes a new front where the borderline or narcissist tries to recruit […]