It’s one of those moments in a relationship with Crazy when all the puzzle pieces begin to fall into place. This occurs in relationships between narcissistic/borderline men and codependent women, too.
There are three possible scenarios:
1) The person claiming their exes are all narcissists and empath status for themselves is actually the narcissist. Their exes are codependents or normals who tired of their crap.
2)The person claiming their exes are all narcissists and empath status for themselves is actually the narcissist. Their exes are fellow narcissists and/or borderlines.
3) The person claiming their exes are all narcissists and empath status for themselves is indeed a codependent personality. They likely have more personal work to do if they make a point of telling you right off the bat that a) all their exes are narcissists and b) they’re a super strain of codependent called an empath.
Why does the individual in scenario #3 have more work to do?
Because they’re still identifying as a victim, which is unhealthy. And, as I’ve often advised, be wary of anyone who makes a repeated huge point about how honest, loyal, trustworthy, empath-y, etc., they are. Either the opposite is true or they’re insecure and need to do more healing work.
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