For anyone who’s interested, I’ll be a guest on Paul Elam‘s A Voice for Men Radio program on BlogTalkRadio again next Tuesday, May 10, 2011 at 9pm EST. I was on the program last month and enjoyed taking calls and speaking with members of the Shrink4Men community and others.
This program’s topic will be “Crazy-Proofing your Romantic Life (and Life in General).” Crazy, entitled, predatory bullies can be found just about anywhere—your marriage, your family, your office, your church, the PTA, your softball league, etc., etc. Therefore, knowing how to spot these types and how to deal with them if you can’t avoid them or go completely No Contact is essential.
I’ll be touching on some of the information from How to Crazy-Proof Yourself After Breaking Up with or Divorcing an Abusive Girlfriend or Wife, Part 1 and additional material. Like last time, we’ll be taking both male and female callers, so if you have questions or a story you’d like to share, please call or Skype in on show night.
I’ll Tweet and post a reminder on Facebook next Tuesday to remind those of you who follow Shrink4Men via these avenues. If you’re unavailable on the 22nd, I’ll post and embed the show here on Shrink4Men the following day.
If you have specific questions for me, please post them in the comments section here. If we have time, I’ll try to respond to them during the program.
Hope you can tune in!
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I look forward to listening. You definitely offer a fresh perspective on issues affecting men today. Trying to use reasoning and logic with high-conflict women is so draining, but the alternative is going down the steady slide of intellectual turpitude.
Was wondering what happened to the show. It’s good to know Paul is still out spreading the word via radio.
I look forward to it as well. Learning how to better deal with teh crazy will be very valuable to all of us!
Report to Congress on Borderline Personality Disorder
Here’s my crude (gallows humor?) definition of BPD:
If, say, Minnesota represents “sane” and Wisconsin represent “insane” (just for the sake of argument…ahem!), then the Mississippi (or St. Croix) River represents the borderline personality…and remember, every river, at some point in time, will flood and overflow its banks, some more often than others.
Psychologists see a lot of overlap with Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder….I wonder if that will be addressed? I guess it has to do with when you excuse a person for mental illness? Certainly both conditions are capable of causing havoc in a family, but when does it become pathological as opposed to medical?
time zone differences prevent me from calling in live, but my initial comment would be to really focus the show on a “how to crazy proof your life.” so a real practical guide. formulating concrete “things to do” that people can apply when dealing with these personalities. likely “things to say,” and “ways to begin sentences” and “how to set boundaries with someone who oversteps any boundary presented to them…all the time…every time…no matter how reasonable the boundary is…and then of course…only with you but not in public so you wind up in a dizzying state of being treated incredibly differently in private.” “how to tame the entitled female dragon.” “how to expose your wife-bully without getting hurt.” “what a predatory personality needs to hear in order to stop bullying/targeting you.” hmm…
oh: what to do while separating, how to track abuse, how to prove abuse, how to deal with the police, the courts, family services institutions. how to protect the children (as a man), when the woman ain’t. how to expose in a way that will help the man gain custody. how to expose in a way that will create a safe and healthy upbringing for the children that still includes the healthy part of the mother’s caretaking, but eliminates the toxic rage machine (for example, my wife is very good at taking our child to festivals, especially if she has a pocket full of money. frankly, i do not want to take that bond away from our daughter, and it seems to be a great thing for mother and daughter. they enjoy it. however, everyday caretaking, right now, is just not possible for my wife. she won’t doesn’t or can’t do it, but i have initiated a separation, and with our child’s age, 98% of the time, custody is granted to women. actually, not sure what the percentages are if the man initiates custody proceedings, which i did even while still married, so that’s something to look into.
Good show. I think an important point was brought up about educating boys & men about how to avoid and protect themselves vs. abusive partners. I’d also say educating the public at large about how women can be abusive is important too. As you mentioned abusive women affect both men and women in the workplace and in their home. So do abusive men, but there’s far more awarness about that.
Look at the tone of this article about sleep apnea. The author writes playfully about hitting her husband, not nudging him, in his sleep because he snores. If it’s that bad, get your own bedrooms and get the snorer checked out by a doctor. It’s not “playful” to hit someone in their sleep.
I have a diagnosed NPD ex. So this really resonates. I am on the second “wonder therapist for my now 16 yo son — she fired the first one after he unambiguously told her that she was hurting her child by insisting that he liv ein her toxic environment.
I agree with what you blog — the motherhood golden shackle is very true. Is there a correlation though between possessing a golden vagina and the need to preserve it unsullied and in museum quality. My ex did not do sex enthusiasticly other than to get pregnant After that, it was months and at the end 3 years without sex. In your view, is this just manipulation, punishment or the need to preserve the “golden shrine” in its “time of birth” condition?