There’s a new “movement” sweeping the globe.
Is it human rights protestors for Darfur? No. Is it US citizens from middle- and lower-income classes protesting the ever-growing economic disparity? No. Are we demanding the end of our wars in Iraq, Afghanistan, Libya and elsewhere? No. Is it people fighting for their right to affordable healthcare? No. Is it working class folks trying to protect their collective bargaining rights? No. Is it college students protesting outrageous tuition costs and predatory lending practices? No.
There are a number of women worldwide who are organizing events called SlutWalks to fight for their rights to dress, well, like sluts (their parents must be so proud). SlutWalks began in Canada and are now spreading, much like a virus, to the UK and the US.
Why are some women doing this?
Constable Michael Sanguinetti of the Toronto Police Service remarked to a class of Osgoode Hall Law students that women can avoid sexual assault by not dressing like sluts. His comments were posted by some students on Facebook and blogs and finally made their way to newspapers. Constable Sanguinetti has since apologized for his remarks after being labeled a “misogynist” and being subjected to public ridicule and censure.
However, his verbal contretemps didn’t end with his public apology. Many Toronto women, outraged by—I don’t know what exactly—decided they weren’t going to take it lying down anymore and the first SlutWalk was organized to show—some really unfortunate personal wardrobe choices, as far as I can tell.
Sanguinetti’s comments, while simplistic, really aren’t that offensive. Indignant women have pulled the taffy and interpreted his comments to mean that women who dress provocatively and are sexually assaulted are “asking for it.” I don’t see it that way. My take is that women need to start being accountable for their own personal safety, heaven forbid.
Meaning that if a woman walks down the street dressed like this:
She shouldn’t be surprised/shocked/offended/outraged if she gets this:
SlutWalks seem to be just a bunch of histrionic, attention-seeking women trying to make a mountain out of a molehill. Frankly, I’m sick and tired of some women crying “MISOGYNY!” every time a man (or another woman) either tells them something they don’t want to hear or tries to hold them accountable. Grow up, ladies.
I’m sick of women who go out, get wasted, have consensual sex with some guy and call it rape. Unless the man was pouring Cosmos down her gullet, she chose to impair her judgement and the responsibility lies with her. I’m sick of women who pretend that dressing like a prostitute is female empowerment. Women who expose themselves do so to feel powerful, not empowered. Empowered women use their brains, not their boobs. Empowered women also don’t need to make themselves the center of attention.
These women feel powerful from the attention they receive from men and other women for dressing that way. Again, male attention makes these women feel powerful and desirable. They are not making a civil rights statement by baring their midriff, flashing a thong and exposing their bra straps. They’re saying, “Look at meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!”
And , “Hey! Look at meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!” is what these SlutWalks really seem to be about. When I was in my 20s and wore a low cut top or a short skirt, I didn’t do so because I wanted to say, “I am woman, hear me roar.” At the time, I wanted to be noticed by men because I was single and wanted to find a boyfriend, so I dressed in a way I thought would attract men to me. Why can’t some women be honest about this?
Yes, women and men should be able to attire themselves however they see fit, but they also need to take responsibility for their choices. We’re judged by how we present ourselves. You can stomp your feet, pout and shout, “Not fair!” all you like, but it’s just the way it is.
I don’t take women who dress like streetwalkers seriously. My first thought is: Desperate for attention. I don’t take men seriously who wear below the knee shorts with their butts sticking out of the top seriously. My first though is: Immature. You can’t legislate first impressions.
For instance, this:
Does not say, “Rocket scientists.” Maybe they are rocket scientists, but that’s not what they’re putting out there.
SlutWalks seem to be the feminists’ version of Girls Gone Wild, minus the plastic bead necklaces and body shots. These demonstrations seem like childish, attention-seeking behavior and nothing more. One wonders how many real female sexual assault victims participate in these events.
Ultimately, who cares if reactionary, emotional reasoners want to make a spectacle of themselves? The best thing you can do to an attention-seeker is to ignore them.
However, the SlutWalk attention-seekers are costing you, me and other tax payers money. Cities have to provide police to protect SlutWalks and spend money to clean up the debris left behind afterward. Road crews have to barricade roads and open them back up and for what? A histrionic witch hunt and so that these women can have something to blog about and post on their Facebook walls. Enough already.
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