Nice guys finish last. No good deed goes unpunished. Virtue is its own reward. That all depends upon how one defines “nice” and one’s motivation for performing good deeds. “Being nice” in response to someone who consistently mistreats, exploits and abuses you is you putting yourself in last place. Doing good deeds hoping a partner […]
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Don’t Let the Narcissist Determine your Sense of Worth
Remember the childhood adage that was supposed to make us feel better when we were bullied? Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me. Our parents tell us that when we’re kids, but it’s cold comfort at the time. Name-calling hurts when you’re a kid. It can also hurt as […]
Custody Battles, Bowel Movements and Other Markers of Narcissistic, Borderline and Psychopathic Parents
Bitterness, resentment and anger are mainstays in divorce and custody cases, even in cases that don’t involve one or two narcissists, borderlines or psychopaths. When a personality disordered parent is involved, the damage to children and the targeted parent, or target of blame for the high-conflict, disordered parent, can be incalculable. I’ve been operating Shrink4Men […]