This article is the follow-up to BPD Ambush: How Borderlines Weaponize Therapy. It’s a real-life story of what happened when Goldie, recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, discovered her husband, Victor, had scheduled a session with me. (Names and identifying information have been changed for obvious reasons.) Before diving in, here’s a quick recap: Goldie […]

Many clients wrongly believe that if they finally start to set boundaries in an already established relationship with a borderline or narcissistic partner, it will magically fix the relationship. Spoiler alert: It won’t. In fact, it often makes things worse. Nevertheless, relationship boundaries are both healthy and essential. I encourage all clients to develop them. […]

If a high-conflict ex can’t provoke you over text or email anymore, guess where they’ll try to engage you next? That’s right—the custody exchange. If you’re dealing with a narcissistic (NPD) or borderline (BPD) ex, custody hand-offs can become an opportunity for yet another one of their power struggles. And with these types, anything and […]