This anecdote is from the client files. First, this man isn’t a porn addict. In other words, he wasn’t watching pornography 24 hours a day, 7 days awake. He also prefers having sex with an actual woman to viewing Internet porn). However, he was is a sexless marriage for years and didn’t want to cheat. That meant taking things into his own hands and taking care of himself. Literally.
His likely narcissistic wife had to control that, too. She accused him of being an ungodly pervert for watching porn and masturbating. She also insisted that both pornography and masturbation (solo, not in the company of another adult) constitutes infidelity.
So, she slept with his best friend and claimed it wasn’t as bad as his porn watching. Furthermore, his occasional porn watching drove her to sleep with his now former best friend. It’s all his fault! In all likelihood, she was already screwing around on him. The intermittent porn consumption was the after the fact excuse.
Not only is that not normal thinking, it’s a big box of WTF.
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