Last week I received an email from David Burch, associate producer of Investigation Discovery’s Stalked. For the new season, they want to include at least one episode that features male targets of female stalkers. Many of you have shared your experiences about being stalked by your girlfriends/wives/exes here at Shrink4Men, which is how Mr Burch found the site.
Before agreeing to assist Mr Burch, I watched a couple episodes of the program. They seem to treat female stalking victims who appear on the show with respect. I spoke with Mr Burch and he assured me that male stalking victims who come forward will be treated with the same respect. In other words, I wanted to be certain to the best of my ability that no man would get “Dr Phil-ed” by the show’s editors or production team. Mr Burch gave me that assurance.
Typically, the show’s producers reach out to law enforcement officials, domestic violence facilities and other crisis treatment centers to find subjects for the program. I’m not surprised DV programs couldn’t provide Mr Burch with male victims. As we all know, most DV programs won’t even admit that men can be the victims of domestic violence. The handful that grudgingly acknowledge this don’t provide services for men. I’m not surprised law enforcement officials couldn’t provide male victims either, also for obvious reasons.
Your story is especially relevant for the show if you filed a police report against the female perpetrator or tried to file a report. If the police didn’t take you seriously and/or let your perpetrator off with a warning/slap on the wrist, this is also relevant subject matter.
Here’s an example of a Stalked segment for those of you who are unfamiliar with the program:
If you would like your story to be considered for the show, please contact Mr Burch directly at the following email:
Alternately, if you have concerns you’d like to discuss with me before contacting Mr Burch, please share them in the comments below or email me:
It’s incredibly important that men who are or were the victims/targets of female perpetrators begin to speak up. We need to dispel the cultural myth that women can’t be abusive and dangerous. We need to start holding abusive, disturbed and/or sociopathic women accountable—especially for their criminal behaviors.
I know the thought of admitting about how some crazy woman harassed and traumatized you may make you uncomfortable. However, by sharing your experiences, you could very well help to save another man’s sanity and life who is in a similar situation. Many of you have been stalked by women who are the mothers of your children. Even so, I encourage you to contact Mr Burch.
Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
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