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I too have an XH who is incredibly toxic. I think the first bit of advice I would give you is to tell you that almost everything you have read about parenting after divorce is the exact opposite of what you should do when dealing with a disordered ex.
Luckily your daughter sounds quite young yet, so you have some time…[Read more]
undone replied to the topic Resources for Adult Children of Borderline Mothers/Parents in the forum Recommended Reading 9 months, 2 weeks ago
I’ve only read Stop Walking on Eggshells and parts of Understanding the Borderline Mother. I found Understanding better than SWOE. That might be my bias against the author of SWOE coloring my opinion though.
I find a lot of the older literature a bit, I don’t know, depressing maybe? Very few of them gave actual coping skills. Discounting SWOE’s…[Read more]
undone replied to the topic Just for Venting – What was the craziest thing ever said to you by your Ex? in the forum Crazy Exes 9 months, 3 weeks ago
Oh it’s so hard to pick just one. :/ That’s both sad and comical at the same time.
For my ex, I would have to go with one time early on in our divorce when he called me asking if I was at home so he could pick up the kids. It actually started off relatively sane. I had told him that I was just leaving the grocery store and would be home in about…[Read more]
First; I am so happy to be here!
Now on to the introduction.
I am in my 40s and am married to my second husband. My first husband is an alcoholic whom I suspect of being a cluster B.
My husbands first wife is the same(cluster B alcoholic). Seems like a statistical anomaly I know, but maybe the wounded seem to recognize their own?
I have two…[Read more]