13 Lies Men Tell Themselves to Stay in Bad Relationships

Every now and again we tell ourselves lies in order to delay making difficult changes that we know are ultimately in our best interests. We justify, minimize, rationalize and avoid the issue either because we don’t want to face the negative consequences of change (e.g., alimony or less time with our children) or are deriving some benefit or secondary […]

Do You Believe Your Abuser’s Happiness Is More Important Than Your Own?

When you become involved with an abusive person, whether she or he is personality disordered (narcissistic personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder or borderline personality disorder) or just your garden variety self-absorbed bully, aka “Crazy,” it’s quite common to cede your life over to him or her. You will eventually find yourself consumed and hyper-attuned to their needs […]

Going Mental: Using the 5 Fears of Borderlines and Narcissists to Get Rid of Them

Going Mental is back, and we’ll get into the fine tuning of dealing with Crazy. By Crazy, of course we mean personality disordered basilisks who can put more chaos into your personal life than a battalion of blind drunk soccer hooligans. There are 5 basic fears common to these life-wreckers. If you know what those […]