Do You Believe Your Abuser’s Happiness Is More Important Than Your Own?

When you become involved with an abusive person, whether she or he is personality disordered (narcissistic personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder or borderline personality disorder) or just your garden variety self-absorbed bully, aka “Crazy,” it’s quite common to cede your life over to him or her. You will eventually find yourself consumed and hyper-attuned to their needs […]

Going Mental: Are You that Desperate for a Woman?

Human beings are social, pair-bonding creatures. In so many words, that is what we do. Many men, on the other hand, take the impulse to pair bond and turn it into a willingness to be a doormat with a wallet, often in exchange for what appears to be a small amount of acceptance from a […]

Ending a Relationship with an Abusive Parent, Child or Sibling, Part One

In our culture, family is sacred, well, maybe not as sacred as it used to be, but it’s still a cultural and psychological institution. As such, there are certain taboos attached to it. For example, denigrating motherhood is taboo – fatherhood, not so much. Physical incest between family members is taboo. Emotional incest should be […]