Of the many things that fathers from broken marriages endure, guilt can be one of the worst. There is guilt from the breakup of the family and from being removed from the daily lives of their children.
Worse than that, when the father comes from an abusive relationship, that guilt becomes a weapon used against him by the ex-wife. She uses it to extract money and cooperation, to continue her endless punishment of him for “failing” as her husband. She even trains the children in the same tactics, who often learn to manipulate and control the absent father in similar ways to their mother.
While this is typically the way these men have were treated while they were still married, it significantly worsens after the divorce resulting in alienation and often spilling over into whatever future relationships he might have.
Please join Dr. Tara Palmatier and Paul Elam on Wednesday, October 1, 2014 at 3:30 PM Pacific, 5:30 Central and 6:30 Eastern Time for an important episode for fathers, on Going Mental.
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