Believe it or not, we actually get messages from men seeking support from shrink4men.com and avoiceformen.com that run something along the lines of, “Hey, she slashed my tires, had sex with my nephew and cleaned out my bank account. Should I consider getting out of this relationship?”
In fact, many of the men seeking assistance for problems with women like this are men who, if hearing their own stories from any other man, would be screaming “Get out!” at the top of their lungs. But when it comes to saying bye-bye to crazy, destructive women in their own lives, they have the sad and destructive tendency to fold like a cheap suit.
We don’t believe these men are to be mocked and ridiculed. They represent a pervasive and socially mandated pressure to accept abuse from women – to see them as the victim and to see themselves as the ones responsible for making changes without ending their personal involvement.
There is just one little catch. The social expectations on these men are as insane as the destructive, personality disordered women they are involved with. In fact, the personality disordered basilisk uses social pressures on men to put up with them as one of their primary weapons to continue abuse and control of their victims.
Continuing a relationship with such a person is like finishing a cup of coffee after someone has peed in the cup. The fact that men are pressured to drink a certain amount of piss does not change the fact that it is a completely self-destructive thing to do.
Please join Paul Elam and Dr. Tara Palmatier for the next episode of Going Mental, where we will address the topic of male denial and how it sets them up for more abuse from pathological, crazy women.
The show is Wednesday, September 23 at 3 Pacific, 5 Central and 6 Eastern Time.
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