Many men, on the other hand, take the impulse to pair bond and turn it into a willingness to be a doormat with a wallet, often in exchange for what appears to be a small amount of acceptance from a woman. There are women who allow themselves to become doormats, too. It’s usually due to codependent traits
Of course, not all men and women are like that. But there is enough of them to keep a steady stream of victims rolling into family court, year after year. One thing that might help men in avoid this trap is if they had a sense of their own worth and self-respect that is not dependent upon women’s approval.Same goes for women. Tying up one’s self-worth on the approval of an abusive personality guarantees abuse and exploitation.
Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. Coaching individuals through high-conflict divorce and custody cases is also an area of expertise. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for more information.
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