Paul Elam of AVoiceforMen and I are back on the air tonight, Monday, April 2, 2012 at 9pm EST. We’ll be discussing The Problem with Pedestals and Men Who Place Women Upon Them. Many men, whether they’re aware of it or not, place the women in their lives upon pedestals. Doing so can create difficulties and power imbalances in the relationship.
Men and women may benefit from a better understanding of what it means to place a woman on a pedestal and especially to de-pedestal her, and how it can improve your relationships. The knowledge alone can make the difference between walking upright, or crawling through a relationship getting your knees, and everything else, scuffed up.
Once the smoke clears from all the non politically correct points we will make, we’ll be left with is the most important thing for a man to know. If the choice is between keeping her and keeping your self-respect, it is better to keep your self-respect.
Sadly, it appears that there are a lot of men who are willing to sacrifice their self-respect in order to hang on to someone who doesn’t respect them. And remember, this isn’t Oprah. No one here is going to give you a pass on making bad choices. That is why they call them choices.
What we will offer, though, is the rationale for making better choices; choices that lead you back to dignity and well-being, and offer you the only legitimate path to being treated with respect by your partner, future partners and other women in your life. Ladies, we have a message about men who want to put you on pedestals, too.
As always, the call in number for the show is 310-388-9709. We would especially like to hear men call in that can tell us their stories about how they de-pedestaled a woman in their life or men with questions about how to go about de-pedestaling the women in your lives.
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